Sundays have a way of slowing us down enough to ask the questions we avoid all week. As a Clinical Psychologist and founder of Psychosocial Intervention Kenya, I spend most of my week sitting with people who are waiting for something to change – a job offer, a diagnosis, a relationship, a season of grief to lift. Somewhere along the way, I’ve had to remind myself, and them, of a simple but uncomfortable truth: sometimes we are not waiting for a breakthrough. We are meant to become it.

Waiting Versus Becoming

There is a quiet passivity in the way we talk about breakthroughs, as though they are weather systems that either arrive or don’t. But in therapy rooms and support groups, the people who move forward are rarely the ones who waited the longest. They are the ones who, often in small and unglamorous ways, started acting like the person on the other side of their struggle – before the struggle had actually ended.

That doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine. It means choosing, in the middle of a hard season, one small action that reflects who you want to be rather than only how you currently feel.

What This Looks Like in Practice

• Name the identity you’re growing into, not just the outcome you want. “A person who shows up consistently” is something you can practise today; “getting the job” is not.
• Look for the smallest next action available to you right now, and let it be enough for today.
• Give yourself permission to rest without treating rest as a delay to the breakthrough – rest is often part of how it is built.

If this Sunday finds you tired of waiting, consider a gentler question than “when will things change?” Ask instead: “what is one way I can already be the person I’m hoping to become?” That shift, small as it sounds, is often where real movement begins.